Motherance: Nurture Yourself To Lead Them
Learn how to really help your child by discovering your own joy, purpose and peace.
It's more than just the 'damn phones'
Why young people need a whole new model for how to live
"Self-awareness is the hottest new resource."
There's a crisis that is reaching epidemic proportions among young adults today.
A pattern I call Next Gen Drift - a generational freeze response to a chaotic, uncertain and overstimulating world.
But it's more than just the 'damn phones'. Yes, they’re addictive -designed to flood their brains with dopamine hits that keep them scrolling for hours. But that’s not the whole story.
The question isn’t just 'why they can’t put the phone down?', but what they’re trying so hard to avoid.
Somewhere deep within them, they sense - although they don’t consciously know it - that they’re betraying who they really are by outsourcing their worth to the world around them.
It’s a quiet loss of their own inner knowing - their truth, their soul - drowned out by the world’s relentless noise. They don’t have the language to name this disconnection, and they don’t know how to change it.
Young adults are overwhelmed - not because they’re broken, but because they’re unanchored.
They’re drowning in expectation and pressure, but lacking a clear inner compass to guide them. They're adrift.
You’re trying to be that compass, but nothing’s working.
Because they don’t need more support, advice, attention or even love in the way they needed it when they were kids.
They need a whole new model. A way of being in which they can navigate the world without losing themselves.
One where they actively build their own inner compass, and use it to find real joy even in the demand and chaos of modern life. Self-awareness is the hottest new resource.
This isn’t just mental resilience, or another type of therapy to help them cope. It’s a soul-level resilience that refuses to settle for coping and empowers them to truly thrive.
One that teaches them how to listen inward when everything outside is screaming for their attention.
But they can’t find that on an online platform or an anxiety pill.
They can only learn it from us. The model they need is you.
What if their struggle is the best thing that ever happened to you?
It may sound crazy but hear me out.
What if your child’s struggle is not just a problem to fix, but a signal inviting you into a new way of being too?
Because our relationships are mirrors. And
none reflect us more deeply - or more
painfully - than the ones we have with
our children.
When something within us is mis-
aligned - when old stories, suppressed
emotions, or outdated expectations are ready
to be shed - it doesn’t show up in your planner.
It shows up in your home. In your kitchen. At the dinner table.
In the standoffs, the slammed doors, the tears or the heavy silence of a young adult who's too old to tantrum but still quietly screaming “You don’t get me.”
It may feel like life is punishing you, but it's not punishment, it's activation.
This is love, doing what love does best - calling you home to yourself, by any means necessary.
Because only a bond as strong as the
one you have with your child has the power to push you beyond performance and into transformation.
This is how evolution really works. Not in the absence of struggle - but through it. Not by bypassing conflict - but by using it to grow.
Your child’s challenge is not just theirs to face.
It’s your invitation to grow into a new version of you.
Are you ready to meet her?
